1. stand in the dark, and strike the match. (or ignite the sparkler). let it flicker first. then let it become the starting place, for the wicks in the wax, the candles in the room, the alter of your heart, the lamppost in the woods, the light that is a remembrance and a beginning.   2. drape the tree (or the headboard on the bed, or the coat rack, or the bathroom mirror, or anything really) with shiny silver tinsel. everything is fabulous with tacky tinsel.   3. love the learning, however it chooses to come.   4. take the long way. mull wine. slow cook soup. pork and tomatillos and peppers, drenched in beer and set in the oven, and ten hours later,…